Drama is taking the reigns of our wedding planning and stressing me out. Up until now I had been pretty lax in my planning, that is until I realized how quickly the dates are approaching. I have to seriously start mapping things out and stop pretending I have time on my side. First order of business has been the guest list, the dreaded guest list. We knew this would be an issue the moment we booked the venue, once the director told us we had a 150 guest cap. This number wouldn’t seem so bad to most couples, most couples that don’t have mothers with 10 siblings each. Yeah, and these 20 aunts and uncles come equipped with children, and grand children… and significant others. Damn, did I mention the plus one factor, oh that’s right… I’m trying to block it out.
I admitted to my mother fairly early on that she was going to be upset with my cutthroat invitation process, and she was. My mother and I preceded to argue over the guest list for months… and months. That is until last week when she finally conceded. I’m not particularly close with the majority of my excessively large family, most of whom I only see at funerals. I know, I’m a shitty relative, I’m socially awkward in most aspects of my life, this does not exclude family functions… I hate functions.
Recently we realized the cost of getting married is pretty high and it would be easier on us to keep things minimum, meaning we were going to try to move our 150 cap closer to a 75. This conversation about finances was the one that opened my mothers eyes and inspired her to stop arguing with me. However, Terrence hadn’t even begun arguing with his parents, and he picked the worst time to start… mostly because I was in the room and really didn’t want to be apart of that discussion.
I wish things were easier. But honestly, I’d rather have a modest gathering of my closest and most important friends and family, rather than a plethora of obligation invites. Unfortunately this process is going to be ugly and people will be unnecessarily offended. Hopefully most people will be more open minded and honest about what kind of relationship they think they may have with us. Wouldn’t that be nice.
But on the bright side… we found the cutest invitations! Yeah, we kind of swooned.
Obviously these are fully customizable and will be altered to suit us and our wedding details. But you get the basic idea and the final result will still be a surprise. Even though only a select few will be receiving these fantastic little cards in the mail, don’t worry I’ll share the final product when the time comes.